It’s year 3 of the marital madness and on this Christmas day I say “Praise God – I am still standing! And happy and healthy.” My happiness and joy are not circumstance dependent J Thank God I learned that lesson years ago.
It has been a year of growth and change, but no resolution of the marital stuff. I am feeling well and told I am looking well. I am looking forward to more positive changes in 2009. Fabulous!! Who could ask for more? I still get asked “Shouldn’t you force things? –you deserve better” or my other favorite “You deserve some happiness too.”
I find it funny that people so quickly assume that all happiness is dependent on an intimate relationship. If you follow that train of thought every single person must be miserable (lol – it’s ludicrous). Besides I believe the new trend is ‘serial hooking up’ and not even dating, so am I being encouraged to jump on that train….I hope not I still believe in marriage and real intimacy.
The other thing is I still tell my husband he has my full support in achieving what he wants for himself. Of course, I have learned you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. And what makes people assume he’s happier than I am???? Because he has resumed his life as single man? That would be odd…all the studies say married men live longer. Stand us side-by-side and you judge. I am not convinced it’s all he thought it would be…although some appearances can be deceiving
We’ve both been laid off recently so the cost of a divorce has just gone up (actually our resources have gone down) – 2 years ago it would have been more profitable. We had jobs and our real estate had better value. What a mess – this is why I blog.
In the meantime, I pray for us all. I am still certain God has a plan and is taking me (and most likely Steven too) somewhere with this madness. I am not sure where we will end up but I am 100% certain that in the end God will get the glory.
Glad Tidings to you all J
