Sunday, March 25, 2012

Strength Will Rise

(Written February 2012)


I observed something interesting in the last few weeks.  I was thinking about the seeming ridicule and derision of wives who are said to stand by their man in the face of infidelity or other wrongdoing.  This is very common in the face of infidelity and the more public the more thoughtless the comments about the wife. 

I wondered if anyone ever considered that standing by your man is not an act of weakness but of strength and responsibility.  A wife is not a girlfriend.  Girlfriends are for the casual good times.  Wives are for better or worse.  A wife is charged with caring for her husband and infidelity is an indication of spiritual and moral crisis.  A wife’s responsibility includes care/concern for his soul.  Loss of integrity and respect are soul damaging.  What happens when all the drama and attention dies down is what matters…..

No matter the outcome of the marriage as a result of the betrayal – it is foolish of the ego and the drama mongering public to believe that a wife standing by a fallen husband’s side is doing anything less than deliberately demonstrating unconditional love and forgiveness.  It does not mean she is not hurt, angry, embarrassed for him, it does not mean that correction is not required – it may simply mean that the integrity of her word is bigger than her pride and the belittling comments of outsiders.

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